I
hate to admit it but I love Tinder. When I’m bored in class I go on tinder.
Before I go to sleep I check it. Sometimes when my girlfriends get together,
someone says, “Look at this hot guy I matched with on Tinder”. Every time I get
a match or a message it’s a little compliment to me. I think Tinder ties into
our discussions and readings about Self-Presentation
and online dating because it’s almost completely based on looks (and
possibly a few misleading fun facts).
Tinder
seems like it is an app that’s exclusively for hooking up with people close by
but I have a few friends that have actually gone on dates with Tinder matches
and one friend that’s currently dating a guy she met on Tinder. But for the
most party I would say Tinder is for “hookups”. But it’s different from other
dating sites because there are minimal details on your profile. All you can see
is 1-6 pictures, age, background info, your mutual friends, and their “about”
message. Even though you could post meaningful information on your “about”
section, most people post weird anecdotes or quotes that have nothing to do
with them or their personalities.
In
our reading “Self Presentation in Online Dating” the researchers defined impression motivation as an online dater’s
motivation to control their profile self-presentation. They continued to
explain that the purpose of self-presentation is to “aid in the fulfillment of
personal goals.” Then what are the personal goals of dating? The point of
online dating is to create some type of personal relationship. When it comes to
impressions online, I think we tend to focus on misrepresentations. But in a
study researching managing
impressions online, almost all participants reported they accurately
represented themselves but many came to the consensus that the their
representations were polished versions. I would agree with this and I think it’s
more important to take note of the type of website or application people are
using. Different apps and sites usually show different purposes. For instance a
guy I meet on Match.com versus a guy I meet on 3nder
versus a guy I meet on Ashley
Madison will all probably have totally different profiles, goals, and
intentions. I think this is because different websites usually attract people
based on different relationship goals. If I was on match.com, I might post
something about my life goals and my family and a picture of me that is very
similar to what I look like day to day because on match.com I would be looking
for a relationship and someone with similar interests. But on Tinder, the point
is to find a random person to hook up with, so no one really needs to know
anything about me, just how attractive I am. So I only post pictures where I’m
dressed up and have makeup on. My “about sami” section says “Just tindering my
way through life. If you don’t like Chipotle don’t talk to me”.
In conclusion I would say that
self presentation is very dependent on
relationship goals and also what website or applications your using.
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