In this day and age everything we do is basically based off of technology, and more specifically social media, whether we realize it or not. You can use it to look things up, keep up to date with current events, and to make and keep friendships and relationships, which is the most common way that it is used.
Social media is one of the main reasons why we stay friends with someone from our past because it allows us to reconnect with them even though we probably haven’t spoken to that person in forever. It is also used to meet new people in the sense that you see someone you like or want to get to know, on any level, all you have to do is send them a friend request and talk to the person, and with that can come a friendship, or sometimes even more serious things such as a relationship.
All these things bring me to talk about the idea of online dating, and when you know you are dating someone online, versus when you are just friends with the person, and my personal experiences. To me when you are dating someone it means that you are expressing your feelings and hanging out with them in some way, and you are always wanting to be with them. When you are just friends with a person you are always wanting to be with them and you are hanging out with them as well, you just aren’t expressing the same feelings. When you say “I love you” to a friend it is quick and it has meaning but the tone is different then when you say it to someone you are dating. Online Dating means that you are having all these interactions I discussed and you act like you are dating, but only through a computer or form of technology. So examples would be facetime, and txt, and phone calls. Usually before you are dating someone you are friends with them so you add them as a friend on facebook and you share a few posts and comments with each other that are friendly, and not flirty. When interactions become more flirty you can kind of say you are dating, but you never really know if you are dating someone online or friends with them unless you discuss it, or even sometimes make it official by posting that you are in a relationship. From my experience, even if I was attracted to someone online that I knew, and we were friends, it always stayed that way, and never became a relationship because it is very hard to date someone, especially online because you and the significant other are not seeing each other, so your interactions via technology may be nice, but you never know how you would act in person. Also it is very hard to actually grasp what someone is feeling or the way they intend to say something when it is through technology, so an “I love you” from a friend or a partner, that is said online, to me will always have less of a meaning then one that is said in person.
Moral of the story is that, even though you may think you are dating someone online and you could very well be, because it could be very clear, be careful because the person could be shady and telling you one thing while doing another for example. Also from my own personal opinion, I would prefer to meet someone face to face and define what type of relationship you have, even though that is hard and sometimes awkward, because then it is one thousand percent clear if your dating or friends since they are telling you things and you are hearing it from their mouth with your own ears, and the only shadiness would be if the person lied to you, which is messed up and difficult because you should not mess with a persons feelings.
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